HOW TO ACCEPT NEW THINGS

By Leniquee

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How do you accept new change in a healthy relationship?

When you have been in so many unhealthy relationships or situationships, you don’t know what a healthy one looks like. Growing up, my family always made it clear that you should never accept help from a man and that I need to be independent on my own. Someone who has been in a relationship where she was made to feel so low and couldn’t really depend or rely on her partner for anything, how do you just allow this new person to come in and show you something so beautiful but DIFFERENT!

I have been so independent my entire life I don’t know how to allow someone to help or do for me the little things. Something so little to him is a huge thing for me, and I don’t ever want to make him feel like I don’t want or need his help. I never want to be the one in the relationship to push an issue so far to the point he doesn’t want to be here anymore. How do you allow and accept a healthy relationship when all you know is to be independent?